Neediness...once more

I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate my needy feelings. It's not even good enough not to act on them. Just the fact that I have the needy feelings frustrates me to tears. I don't even know what to do to get rid of the neediness. I was thinking maybe each time I have an extreme needy feeling I need to do something good for myself. But what? It can't have anything to do with buying things or eating things. Perhaps I need to get to the root of my neediness. Why is it even there?